I wrote on how impatience can be harmful., but just in case you missed it, here you go - http://jeeshcaramel.blogspot.com/2014/08/impatience-can-be-harmful.html . After reading you will
probably agree that the more patient you are, the more likely you are to
enjoy better Here are some
recommendations.
Identify the causes:
The things or situations that make you impatient
have been called impatience triggers. What triggers your impatience? Are
there specific individuals who try your patience? Perhaps your mate,
parents, or children are the principal impatience triggers in your life.
Or are your triggers usually time related? For instance, are you likely
to lose your patience when you have to wait for others or when you are
running late? Do you lose your patience when you are tired, hungry,
sleepy, or under some type of stress? Do you more often lose your
patience at home or at work?
How can merely identifying your impatience
triggers help? Long ago, King Solomon wrote: “Sensible people foresee
trouble and hide from it, but gullible people go ahead and suffer the
consequence.” So, if you
anticipate or “foresee” your bouts of impatience, you may be able to
prevent them. At first you may have to make calculated efforts to be
more patient, but in time patience can become a quality that comes
naturally to you.
Simplify your life:
According to Professor Noreen Herzfeld, who
teaches computer science at Saint John’s University, in Minnesota,
U.S.A., “people really can’t multitask. The brain cannot concentrate on
several things simultaneously.” She adds: “Over time, multitasking
erodes our ability to pay focused, close attention, and this eventually
eats away at traits such as patience, tenacity, judgment, and problem
solving.”
It is difficult to cultivate patience when you are
stressed from having too many things to do, too many places to be, and
too many people to stay in touch with. Stress is the cause of
much of our impatient reactions.
So, slow down and smell the roses, as the old
adage says. Make time to enjoy life. Make time to establish deep
friendships with a few people, rather than pursuing shallow friendships
with a huge network of people. Budget your time, and set your priorities
wisely. Beware of time-wasting hobbies and gadgets.
In order to simplify your life, you may need to
look at your daily routine. Where can you slow down or cut down? Maybe this is the time for you to eliminate some time-consuming things so that you are not too busy to be patient.
Be realistic:
Have a realistic view of life. First of all, in
real life, things do not always happen as fast as we wish. Accept the
fact that time moves at the speed of time and not at the speed of your
expectations. That is patience.
Second, remember that you cannot always control
your circumstances. Again, Wise King Solomon wrote: “The fastest runner does
not always win the race; the strongest army does not always win the
battle; the wisest man does not always get the food he earns; the
smartest man does not always get the wealth; and an educated person does
not always get the praise he deserves. When the time comes, bad things
happen to everyone! A person never knows what will happen to him next.”
Instead of losing your patience over circumstances that are beyond your control, try to identify things that you can control.
To illustrate, rather than getting angry over a delayed bus or train,
try to find another way to get to your destination. Even walking might
be better than giving in to impatience and anger. If waiting is the only
option, use the time to do something productive, such as doing some
meaningful reading or writing down your plans for future activities.
The reality of life is that it does little good to worry over things that you cannot control.
Guys! do you agree?