Is This Person Right for Me?

Have you found someone who might be a good marriage partner? If so, how can you tell if that person is right for you?

It’s vital that you look beyond superficial traits. After all, the cutest girl may not be trustworthy or the most popular boy may not be morally upright. You want someone you’ll be comfortable with, someone who truly fits your personality and your goals.

Looking Beyond the Surface

Look at your friend objectively. Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive your friend’s true nature.

Many who date don’t look beyond the surface. Instead, they quickly point to the things they have in common: “We like the same music.” “We enjoy the same activities.” “We agree on everything!” However, you need to look beyond superficial traits. Rather than focus on how much you agree on things, it might be more revealing to note what happens when you disagree.

For example:

• How does this person handle conflict—by insisting on his or her way, perhaps giving in to fits of anger or abusive speech? Or does this person show reasonableness, a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake?
• Is the person manipulative, possessive, or jealous? Does he or she demand to know your every move? I've seen dating couples who fight because one person can’t stand that the other hasn’t constantly checked in,  I think that’s a bad sign (My opinion).
  
• How is that one viewed by others? You may want to talk to those who have known this person for some time. 
  
  
  
  
  Hope you find this post helpful.:-)